1. emotion is magic
Feeling is the ritual.
Philosophy: Emotions aren’t bugs in your operating system waiting to be squashed. They’re power sources and paths to information. Anger is a boundary trying to be born. Grief is love looking for a place to land. Anxiety is a creative solution that slipped its tether. In a culture that sanitizes sadness and pathologizes rage, I treat intensity as information. This is parts-informed work, and we start by befriending the protective instincts that keep you safe, without shaming them for how they learned to survive.
In Practice: We don’t flatten feelings; we channel them. My goal is to facilitate “ritual combustion,” transformative expression held inside clear agreements, consent, and pacing. Together, we name what’s happening (get to know the feelings wheel now), track where it lives in the body, let it rise in tolerable doses, and direct the energy toward healthy action. Energy doesn’t disappear; it becomes art, boundaries, conversation, and decisions. This is Internal Family Systems (IFS) with a spine: brave, contained, and oriented to impact.
what this is
A forge where shame burns off and truth rises.
Parts-safe, body-aware expression with consent.
Therapy that turns “symptoms” into movement.
what this is not
Polite numbness dressed up as coping.
Catharsis without care or cleanup.
Permission to unload on whoever is closest.
2. structure is safety
Brave, not reckless.
Philosophy: Magic without a container is just chaos. Exploring the depths without equipment is dangerous. If you’ve avoided therapy because you feared it would be an endless, spiraling talk-fest, hear this: there is a smarter way. Depth requires containment and strategy. I will use active, investigative styles to plan where we’re going and how we’ll know when we’ve arrived. I promise transparency in every step.
In Practice: Together we set clear agreements, craft personalized goals, and use consent-based pacing. Where other therapies focus on training away behaviors or just talking about your week, I focus on building your core processing architecture. I guide you through Self-led healing phases: safety and stabilization → connected growth → skill mastery → real-world application. And we will track outcomes in plain language: better sleep, fewer spirals, clearer boundaries, and the joyful pleasure of feeling aligned and in your body.
what this is
Strategic efficiency using psychological scalpels, transparent plans, and warm repair.
Trauma-informed pacing that respects your "window of tolerance."
A permanent upgrade to your internal operating system, not just a patch.
what this is not
The silent "blank slate" therapist nodding from a distance.
Vibe-only processing with no arc or destination.
One-speed intensity or the belief that "more pain equals more healing."
3. queerness is perspective
Answers from the edge.
Philosophy: Queerness is more than an identity. It’s a way of holding internal opposites without panic: masculine and feminine, science and mystery, order and wildness. Whether you’re LGBTQ+ or not, you were taught that to be acceptable, some parts of you had to be buried. Wholeness comes from inviting those parts back in and holding them with all the rest (even if they seem incompatible). Queer people were forced to learn this skill, but it is a radically effective technique available to everyone.
In Practice: Together, we audit the rigid “scripts” you were handed about who you should be (think gender, love, family, success) and help you write a life big enough for all your complexity. We practice disciplined "Both/And" to honor your need for safety and adventure, your logic and your magic. I track and mirror back your contradictions without letting you split until you can do it for yourself.
what this is
The capacity to hold two opposing truths at once without panic.
A radically affirmative zone for your sex, kink, neurotype, and loves.
An investigative map that finds the "missing data" located at the margins.
what this is not
Identity gatekeeping or telling you who you are.
Ungrounded idealism that ignores the forces and realities of being human in this world.
Performative allyship that signals safety without actually structuring it.
4. self is sacred
Reclaim the captain’s seat.
Philosophy: It’s helpful to visualize your internal world like the movie Inside Out, with distinct characters competing for the control console. Even in your most difficult moments, you are not broken. The high-performance team running your system is just fighting for control, often running on outdated protocols and manuals that no longer apply. But for the high-achiever, it’s not just simple emotions competing for the seat. Sometimes it’s a Perfectionist trying to prevent failure at all costs, an Editor trying to adapt your authenticity into something palatable, or a Firefighter trying to douse your stress with the quickest fix available. I honor their effort. They are working overtime to keep you safe. Even if you are judging them right now, trust me: the goal isn’t to fire any of them. It is to rediscover your true Self and promote You back to the captain’s seat, where the system stabilizes and transforms.
In Practice: I help you move from harsh self-discipline to Self-leadership. We do this through guided visualization, somatic tracking, and reshaping your internal dialogue. I apply my background in organizational leadership and a puzzle-solver's precision to map your internal boardroom. Together, we identify exactly what your parts are protecting. I reflect back your competing motivations so you can practice hearing them simultaneously, rather than being hijacked by them one at a time. As you discover what it feels like to step back from the chaos, I facilitate a trust-building negotiation between You (your core Self) and your team. When your parts realize they don't have to white-knuckle the controls anymore, they relax. The internal noise quiets down, and you regain the energy you used to burn on conflict.
what this is
Moving from harsh self-control to compassionate Self-leadership.
Turning inner enemies into valuable allies with a "no bad parts" policy.
Stopping the energy drain of constant internal conflict.
what this is not
Bypassing or ignoring the difficult feelings to get to the "good" ones.
Rigid dogma that forces a framework onto your unique system.
Shaming your defenses for doing the job they were hired to do.
5. community is healing
The ground you heal on.
Philosophy: Isolation is the wound, and connection is the cure. The high-achiever’s default setting is to solve problems alone, to "fix" themselves in private before letting anyone see the messy work. I interrupt that impulse. We are harmed in relationships, and we must heal in them. You cannot think your way out of relational patterns in a vacuum. Your "too-muchness," your shame, and your grief metabolize fastest when witnessed by eyes that don’t look away. Belonging isn’t a reward you earn at the end of healing, it’s the ground we practice on.
In Practice: In couples work, polycules, families, and process groups, I create structured spaces, not performance circles, where we can practice rupture and repair in real-time. When parts collide and loops form (i.e., your shutdown triggers his panic, which then triggers your rage, and so on…), I act as the strategic interpreter and circuit breaker. I slow down the lightning-fast reactions and translate "protector moves" into language each of you can understand, guiding you each inward to be with your Self and system. This allows your systems to move from reactive conflict to deep, systemic understanding as each of you becomes in charge of managing your own internal teams.
What this is
An anti-isolation, pro-belonging environment.
Structured group process building real skills like repair and attunement.
A place to practice being seen without performing.
What this is not
Call-out culture or public shaming.
Spectator therapy where you just watch others work.
A lonely journey disguised as healing.